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I saw something terrible

2.17.16

alley in shenzhen - 1It was a common scene.

A grandfather walking slowly, hands clasped behind his back. His clothes were draped over his petite frame, a throwback to old China. They were weathered as was his face, easily making him look older than he really was. I stood and watched him as he followed a little boy on a bike with training wheels. The boy’s head was clean shaven, easily manicured for Spring Festival. I stood still for a few seconds to admire his determination as he worked hard to pedal on a bike that was ever so slightly to big for his 3- or 4-year-old frame.

His struggle gave way. He fell to the left. The bike fell to the right, his little legs still caught all up in it. I felt the urge to scoop him up. No, no, I am at least 10 feet away and a foreign stranger. He’s okay. 

His tears came, and they came hard. His grandfather didn’t move. A few people who hadn’t stopped, who were just as determined in their efforts to get from Point A to Point B, glanced down at him but moved around him as water would around a rock in its way and kept walking. Still, his grandfather didn’t move.

Oh, oh, this poor child. Pick him up. Please just pick him up. 

The man started to move, and I felt a little relief. Oh, good. 

And, then he hit him. He hit him hard. The hands that had been held so respectfully behind him now were opened to hit him across his small, bare head. He cried harder. Of course he did.

Oh no! No, no, no! Don’t touch him. Oh, Lord, no, no! 

He pulled his little leg off from around the bike then picked up the bike and threw it. The loud crash as it landed about 5 feet away from them both made everyone stop for a second and look. But only for a second until they picked up again, seemingly only surprised by the noise and unphased by what had caused it.

He then grabbed the boy by the arm, mumbling in Mandarin in a scratchy voice, took him to the bike, picked up the bike, and placed it on it again. And, just like that, his hands were clasped again behind his back and the boy started pedaling again. I could still hear him crying.

I wonder what he said to him as he was putting him back on that bike, thinking he was doing his duty teaching him how to ride. I wonder what the boy heard as the old man put him back on that bike.

other sweet faces I saw on the street that same day

other sweet faces I saw on the street that same day

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Glimpses of the ShenZhen seashore

2.15.16

Having only been to the beach in the United States, I expect beaches to look a certain way. Large cargo ships and mountains in the distance are not what I picture. Neither are large angel-like statues, women wading in the water with stockings on, or children playing with shovels in the sand with tights and boots.

But, hey, why not, right?

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On the go again

2.9.16

I’ve got about 5 different versions of a packing list saved on my hard drive. One of them is printed out next to me now with nearly every box checked. Makes a girl like me feel good.

There are three 20 kilo bags in my dining room ready for another trip around the world. This is a trip I’ve been looking forward to for years really. This is Mark’s 3rd staff conference with his teachers. He went alone the first year because we were easing into the whole “we travel around the world seemingly all the time” thing and were committed to only one of us traveling at a time. It made sense, and I was cool with that..until it snowed like 2 feet and Lydia left our snow shovel outside in the yard somewhere during the storm so ain’t nobody was finding it without a metal detector. I believe I Facetimed Mark as I was attempting to shovel our walkway with a Rubbermaid container lid in tears while he was sitting on a beach in Thailand. Yeah, it wasn’t pretty. All systems were a go for me to go with him last year. But, I had the privilege of caring for my sweet friend Helen who was nearly ready for her baby girl’s arrival. There was no way I was leaving her here while I went to her country when she was nearly ready to burst. So, our husbands went without us while she and I stayed here with our combined 5 kids (plus her belly baby) and played a lot of Uno. I didn’t really mind that time at all. Helen made everything a bit sweeter. But, finally, this year, we’re actually going together.

[insert a little “yay” here]

Mark and me. The rest of the home team staff. 26 teachers who we are excited to pour into and care for and dote on. And, a city in southern China called ShenZhen where I’ve never been before (and that happens to be a good bit warmer than where we are right now).

I can’t wait to see what our Father has for us this week–how He wants to use us, how He’s going to show Himself to us, how He’s going to use this time for the sake of His name.

Here we go!

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Overthinking Chinese New Year Books {2016}

2.3.16

I have posted these reviews before. But, since Spring Festival happens every year (It’s this coming Monday, February 8th, this year), I decided maybe this post should too.

In years past, I’ve scoured websites and bookshelves for every Chinese New Year/Spring Festival themed kids’ book around to read to our clan in anticipation of the holiday. We found some good ones and some not so good ones. Overthinker that I am, I hope my musings help you decide which ones are worthwhile for your clan.

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No Year of the Cat from Sleeping Bear Press is a familiar folk story about the 12 animals of the Chinese zodiac and why there is no cat among them. It all starts with the emperor needing a way to remember time, when things happened, most notably the year the prince was born. His idea to name the years after animals results in a race with the winning animals making it into the ranks of becoming legacies in the calendar. Cute story and really beautiful illustrations.

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Chelsea’s Chinese New Year explains Chinese New Year for the younger set. I love the size of it–a nice big paperback book (about a 9 1/2″ square) with big ole illustrations very similar in style to the Disney Channel’s Charlie and Lola. The main character, little Chelsea, explains how her Chinese American family celebrate Chinese New Year, touching on all the traditions either in the text or illustrations. Each page has a little section that gives additional information about the holiday that you can choose to read or skip over to just keep it a story. This one would be great to use in a classroom to read aloud to a group of preschoolers or kindergarteners.

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Marcia Vaughan’s The Dancing Dragon has simplistic text about how Chinese New Year is celebrated in Chinatown. But, what makes this book worthwhile is that the pages all unfold accordion style to reveal the illustration of a long dragon from the parade. Good one to read to a classroom of kids since you could have a child hold each page as it unfolds. Just wish the book was a little larger in size. At 9″x7.5″, a couple more inches would make it much better.

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Another preschool friendly one, Joan Holub’s Dragon Dance: A Chinese New Year Lift-the-Flap Book is a popular one. Each page has 4 lines of simple text in a classic ABCB rhyming pattern (hope that’s right…trying to remember 7th grade English class) with good sized flaps to open to reveal some part of the New Year celebration, supposedly one in New York City’s Chinatown (though it wouldn’t have to be). Colorful and bold illustrations include little “extras” you can point out–the significance of the flowers, the oranges, and the super long noodles. Only complaint? The last flap ends with “Gung Hat Fat Choy!” in big ole print which is Cantonese rather than the Mandarin “Xin Nian Kuai Le!” New Year’s greeting – something that really bothered my Mandarin-learning kiddos.
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chinese new year craft book

Rivers-Moore and Davis’ Chinese New Year! Create and Celebrate is new this year since it just came out this past fall. It had me at the spiral binding. It starts off with a cute little story and then has loads of pages of fun stuff to do—add fire and smoke to a dragon, trace Chinese characters, find the matching lanterns, guess which red envelope has the most coins, learn to draw a pagoda. It even has two punch out red envelopes and a bunch of fun stickers. You may want to buy this one and then rebuy it the next year…or maybe the authors will create a new edition with some new activities which would be very cool.
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It’s not easy to make a new story out of a classic one. In Goldy Luck and the Three Pandas, the author did that out of…can you guess the classic story? The story takes place during Spring Festival, and Little Goldy’s mother sends her to wish their panda neighbors a happy new year and deliver a plate of traditional turnip cakes. What follows is a familiar set of events with a silly twists that will make your little ones giggle. It’s a fun book and one that can teach about CNY traditions and Chinese culture in simple and entertaining ways as well as open up conversation about friendship and mercy. A recipe for turnip cakes is included at the end that I haven’t been brave enough to try to make yet, but it’s on my to-do list! (Note: one page of my copy has a typo. It looks like a line of text is missing. I called the publisher and am waiting to hear if this is the case in every copy of the book or maybe just one batch.)

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Despite mediocre illustrations, Bella and the Year of the Dragon is the best book I could find explaining the fable behind all the animals of the Chinese zodiac and their race to the emperor to determine what order they would come in for the years of the Chinese lunar calendar. And, believe me, I read a bunch that were not even worthy of a review. This one, however, does a good job explaining the fable simply but in an interesting way.

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celebrate chinese new yearCelebrate Chinese New Year: With Fireworks, Dragons, and Lanterns by Carolyn Otto is a National Geographic book for kids. It has super compelling photographs that have a big wow-factor for kids and adults (including ones of Shanghai, a dinner table in Shanxi, Xi’an all lit up, children in Inner Mongolia, a parade in London, dancers in Vancouver, and fireworks in Guiyang). Includes great information without putting too many words on a page too–something that could turn the bedtime book reading into a bad scene. And, it has a great resource section in the back with facts, how to make a Chinese lantern and fortune cookies (which they do point out are an invention of either the Japanese or Chinese Americans), and where to go for more information including other books and websites. Good for real little ones if you want to just talk about the pictures and interesting enough to keep the attention of older kids (and adults).

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This one was published in October 2011 and has won the Feng ZiKai Chinese Children’s Picture Book Award. A New Year’s Reunion was written by Yu Li-Qiong who was born in Anqing, China and currently lives in Nanjing. It tells the fictional story of a family united only once a year when the father, one of China’s 100 million migrant workers, returns home for a few days to see his wife and daughter and celebrate the lunar new year. It’s illustrated beautifully and is a cute story of a family’s traditions, ending poignantly with the father saying goodbye to go back to work. I’m declaring this one a must-have book–not only does it describe well how a Chinese family celebrates the new year, it also shares how so many people in China live as migrant workers. Count on this book opening the door for great conversations with your kids about life in China and, possibly, questions about birth families. Get ready.

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Though I’m not a big fan of the illustrations in Ying Chang Compestine’s The Runaway Rice Cake, I appreciate the message. The Chang family makes one rice cake with the last bit of their rice flour for their whole family of 5 to eat for Chinese New Year. In gingerbread man fashion, the rice cake comes alive and runs away, showing you elements of the New Year celebration as they chase it. When the rice cake runs into a poor and hungry elderly woman, “the rice cake stopped trying to escape” and surrenders itself to be eaten. The children are sad that their last food is gone, but they return home to an abundance, much more than they could have imagined, to their happiest New Year’s Eve ever. Some kids might find the anthropomorphized rice cake’s surrender to be eaten a bit sad (or disturbing?), but the overall message of giving generously and receiving blessings, sometimes tangible ones right away and sometimes ones we may not recognize so easily, makes this book a worthwhile family read.

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Ying Chang Compestine wrote another runaway book – The Runaway Wok: A Chinese New Year Tale. These illustrations are way more my style–bright, funky, fun, filling the pages with color. The story is a silly fable that is sort of a mix of Jack and the Beanstalk, Ebenezer Scrooge, and the Gingerbread Man, Chinese style. My kids thought it was hilarious and were quickly repeating the catchy “skippity-hoppity-ho” line from the crazy wok. And, in addition to showing them pieces of how Chinese New Year is celebrated traditionally, it gave us the chance to talk about bigger things like sharing, justice, revenge, and mercy. This one has been read in and out of season.

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Another Chinese New Year book from Ying Chang Compestine, but one very different from the runaway books. And, one I really love. Crouching Tiger is a Chinese New Year’s themed book with elements I didn’t find in other books (like how in some Chinatown New Year parades, there is a “cabbage boy” who holds a head of cabbage on a bamboo pole in front of the dragon in the parade) as well as the more traditional elements (the cleaning, a new haircut, traditional foods, etc.), while also engaging readers with Chinese martial arts (each page shows a different Tai Chi position) and beautiful illustrations. But, more than that, it’s a book about a young boy learning that he is “Chinese as well as American,” a very important lesson taught to him by a loving and faithful grandfather. Don’t just get it from the library. This one you’ll want to buy, especially if you are a parent of a Chinese boy.

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year of the monkeyStart your own New Year tradition with this series by Oliver Chin. So far, in his Tales from the Chinese Zodiac, he’s written a story book for the Dog, Ox, Pig, Rabbit, Rat, Tiger, Dragon, Snake, Horse, Sheep, and now Monkey. All are cute little stories that capture the symbolic spirit of the zodiac animal featured. Though I haven’t read the new book for this year yet, they typically integrate some of the traditional characteristics believed for those born in that particular year with a fun story. Also, we love the iPad app for the year of the dragon and are hoping Immedium creates some new ones for the other years too since even our iPad likes to celebrate CNY.

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Janet Wong’s year 2000 This Next New Year is unique in that it shows different ethnic groups in America celebrating Chinese New Year. The little boy who is the main character is half Chinese and half Korean. The book also mentions a little boy who is French and German who celebrates the holiday with Thai food to go and a little girl who is Hopi and Mexican who calls the New Year her favorite holiday because she likes getting red envelopes from her neighbor from Singapore. With vibrant colors, the boy explains with a bit of wit and humor and spunk their traditions around the New Year including washing his hair and “drying it extra dry.” A cute book for the younger set – maybe 4-7 year olds – and particularly good for pointing out that lots of different people enjoy recognizing Chinese New Year with their own little traditions. (Note: there is a Chinese/English bilingual version too for budding learners or those who simply want to follow along in characters.)

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Karen Chinn’s book Sam and the Lucky Money is one that engages children in Chinese New Year traditions while teaching a lesson of contentment and generosity. Sam is excited to get his red envelopes from his grandparents for Chinese New Year filled with $4. But, when he goes to Chinatown to buy himself something special, he’s frustrated that everything he wants is more than what he was given. When he sees an elderly homeless man without shoes on his feet, he gives all his money to him. I’m more of a bright, funky illustration type of person, so the soft watercolors didn’t wow me like they might for some. But, the message is one that does wow me. And, it gives you the opportunity to talk to your child about what it means “to be lucky” and if there even is such a thing.
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Grab a used copy of Red Eggs & Dragon Boats: Celebrating Chinese Festivals by Carol Stepanchuk while you can find a copy still. It’s a great kids’ reference book for Chinese New Year, the grave sweeping holiday (Clear Brightness), red egg and ginger celebrations, the Dragon Boat Festival, and the Moon Festival. Loads of information about those holidays, fables, and other traditions are in here and explained in a way that a grade schooler can understand. The color illustrations are really pretty–made me wish they were fabrics in them for a cute little skirt for my little one.
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Want a book for an older girl? You might want to check out The Chinese New Year Mystery. In classic Nancy Drew style, the school is getting ready for the Chinese New Year parade when the dragon is stolen. Nancy Drew (you can’t just call her Nancy) has to figure out who stole the dragon so that the parade can go on. Traditions of the Chinese New Year are described as one of Nancy’s friends, Mari Cheng, is Chinese American. There’s a little bit of interesting drama too as a few girls mouth off about Chinese New Year being “stupid.” Hmmm…could lead to some interesting conversations.

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Another one I really like is Cheng Hou-tien’s The Chinese New Year. We got it from the library since it’s an old book and hard to find. The book explains Chinese New Year traditions with the only illustrations being black colored paper cuttings on a white background which is so beautiful actually. May not wow your little ones as much since it isn’t bright and eye catching, but the art of scissor cutting in China just fascinates me.

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If that’s not enough for you, here are a few other titles that were recommended to me but that I haven’t checked out yet:

  • Celebrating Chinese New Year: An Activity Book,
  • A to Z Mysteries Super Edition #5: The New Year Dragon Dilemma,
  • Lucky New Year! Board book,
  • Great Race,
  • Celebrating the Chinese New Year,
  • The Paper Dragon, and
  • Long-Long’s New Year: A Story About the Chinese Spring Festival.

Any more titles that you’d suggest? Comment and share so we can all check them out.

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