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Gift ideas for a happy-China-traveler-to-be
A friend planning to travel to China with us this Spring just asked what I’d suggest she add to her Christmas list in anticipation of her first China trip. Since Mark is currently in flight to China as I type and packing is very much fresh in my mind, here are a few ideas I came up with that would be good additions under the tree for a happy-China-traveler-to-be.
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Mark got me a set of packing cubes for my birthday one year right before a trip to China. After using them once, I honestly can’t imagine traveling without them. They aren’t much money and work so well for organizing my stuff as well as allowing me to pack way more than I think will fit in my luggage which is always important.
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A luggage scale is a must have because that 50 lb. limit comes fast and the 44 lb. limit for a domestic flight in China comes even faster. At least one luggage scale for someone on a team of travelers is essential for packing and repacking in China. Here is one of our favorites.
I love Timbuk2 bags in general. I have several. And, this Q laptop backpack (in a funky martini olive color) is my favorite China carry-on bag. I use it on the flight, and I use it at the pearl market, and I use it daily at the orphanage and school. All that several times over, and it still looks essentially brand new.
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China travelers need a passport holder, preferably one that can hold an envelope of crisp, brand-new-looking $100 bills without them having to be folded. This one for cards, passport, travel documents, and even phone is awesome. I don’t have this one myself, but I really like that it zips shut, has the wristlet thing, and comes in some pretty fun colors.
Yes, these tags are obnoxiously bright. But, that’s the point. Baggage claim is way easier with a couple obnoxiously bright luggage tags. These colors and the grippy texture are perfect.
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When traveling to China, you really only need a plug adapter (not an electric converter) for your computer, phone, iPad, and camera charger. They can handle the voltage and just need the right type of plug.
I have never brought a hair dryer to China and had success. Even with the plug adapter, it just doesn’t work. I just went to a convenience store there and bought a cheap one that I take back and forth. But, I did invest in a flat iron that works very well both here and there.
I know this TRTL travel pillow is kind of odd. But, what travel pillow doesn’t look a bit odd? And, when you are on a flight for 13 odd hours, odd is just fine. Whatever works. And, this one does. I should be getting freebies from this company for how many I’ve promoted and sold. I like that it is cozy and that it isn’t some big fluffy thing that I wear around the airport or have to tie onto my bag that gets filthy.
I have a pair of cabin socks I always put in my carryon for when I want to get a bit more comfortable on that forever long flight. These slipper socks are thick and cozy and have lots of color options.
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Always a welcome stocking stuffer. A Starbucks gift card is great for the airport before departing and when you only have one more flight to go before home. That decaf caramel macchiato or green tea latte just tastes even sweeter then.
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Bathrooms in China often have sinks but no soap. This mini container has teeny tissue-like sheets of soap that are perfect for such situations when using hand sanitizer just isn’t what you want.
This is also a handy stocking stuffer for the China traveler–travel sized, concentrated laundry soap. Then you can wash clothes to rewear what you need to and spot clean the spots you get from eating with chopsticks.
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I love clever travel solutions. Every China traveler needs something to bring order to plug adapters, iPad chargers, phone charges, headphones, etc. There are lots of them out there. But, this one from Bagsmart looks like a good one to me because I like bold colors so you can spot it easily in the depth of your suitcase or carryon.
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A toiletry bag is essential, and I prefer hanging ones to keep them from sitting in icky water on a bathroom counter. Grab this inexpensive one from NeatPack in a fun color.
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Sometimes you just get tired of drinking bottled water and room temperature Coke. Having a couple of these Crystal Light liquid things in your bag for such occasions makes staying hydrated a bit more tolerable.
Melatonin is your friend. And, it will make a good stocking stuffer that someone thanks you for later.
You need a travel journal that will inspire you and give you plenty of room for thoughts and doodles as you go and go deeper. I don’t have this one, but I kind of love the look of it and may be asking for it myself.
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Okay, so these are super expensive. I know. And, likely nobody’s buying these noise-canceling headphones as a gift since they have a high price tag. But, I had to share them because we were able to get a pair using frequent flyer miles that were expiring, and they are LIFE CHANGING. Seriously. If you have $250 to spare, get these. You’re welcome.
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Please don’t buy this for your China trip. It’s a post-China trip need. Every hotel room has an electric kettle to heat and clean water (no tea needed, just hot water). And, after China, you’re going to want one of your own. We have this one by Oster in our kitchen, and the blue light is so nice in the wee hours of the morning.
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Another gift idea I’d suggest would be books about China travel, culture, adoption if that’s why you are traveling….
Check these out:
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- China in Ten Words
- Age of Ambition
- Message from an Unknown Chinese Mother: Stories of Loss and Love
- Wish You Happy Forever: What China’s Orphans Taught Me About Moving Mountains
- Eating Bitterness: Stories from the Front Lines of China’s Great Urban Migration
- One Child
- China’s Hidden Children
- The Good Women of China
- Dreaming in Chinese
- Wanting a Daughter, Needing a Son
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Three gifts.
It feels forever ago. It was 17 years ago when we were expecting our first child and we decided we didn’t want to get wrapped up in wrapped-up things for Christmas. We decided we were going to do things in our family a little differently.
We wanted gift giving to be an opportunity to shepherd our children as well as an opportunity to give them good things. And so, we give them 3 gifts. That’s it. 3 gifts. From us. Not from Santa. From Mom and Dad. And, these three gifts symbolize those of the wise men. Each year, before we open gifts, we read the Christmas story, emphasizing the wise men who sought out Jesus, the incarnate God, sharing the significance of each individual gift before they open their three gifts.
The wise men brought Jesus myrrh.
Myrrh was a valuable gift of practical use—it was used medicinally for all sorts of ailments from coughs to open wounds. It was a good gift to bring a mother of a new baby. It was something she could use to care for her baby well. And, it demonstrated the gift giver’s concern and hope that the baby would be healthy and have every one of his needs met. It was also used for something else though; it was used for embalming and anointing the dead. And, so, it was a prophetic gift, meaning that it showed people something that was to come in the future, already setting up the Gospel story from the beginning. God’s son would have to die.
Our children’s first gift is a practical gift, something they can use, that meets a need they have—a piece of clothing, some sheets for their bed, a bike helmet, something like that. Sometimes they get excited about this one; sometimes they aren’t as excited. But, we make sure they know that we are giving it to show them our love for them and our hope that they will be cared for well and that all their needs will be met.
The wise men brought Jesus frankincense.
Frankincense is the purest form of incense and was used in worship. When burned, its white smoke and sweet smell would symbolize prayers going up to heaven. It creates a meaningful experience for the one who uses it as well as everyone else around. Like the first gift, it’s also symbolic and prophetic. Jesus is little like Frankincense. He is fully God, Emmanuel, God with us, and the only way to heaven. Because of Him, we can have a relationship with God and talk to him in prayer directly.
Our children’s second gift, likewise, is an experiential gift, something not tangible but something meaningful to us as a family—tickets to some sort of show or a special movie, a night out at the ball park, something like that. One year, we gave our horse-loving little girl a “pony ride” which simply involved a trip to Aunt Charlotte’s house where she got to ride her horse in a circle. She loved it. This gift may or may not cost a whole lot, but the value of it is precious. Typically, I make up some sort of graphic on the computer that is like a gift certificate for whatever their specific experience gift is and give it to them in an envelope along with a business card, ticket, or brochure for the event if there is something like that. These are the gifts our children remember year to year and often cost us the least.
The wise men brought Jesus gold.
Gold was as valuable then as it is now. It was a precious and sacrificial gift on the part of the wise men who gave it. Some say this gold paid for the holy family’s trip to Egypt that they took right away to protect Jesus’ life. Just like the other gifts, it was also a very symbolic gift in that gold was a gift given to princes when they were born. And, that is what Jesus is—royalty, a King in the line of David, King of the world, King of the whole universe, and King of our hearts. When we become a follower of Jesus, we are adopted into God’s family and we too become princes and princesses, heirs to the throne. We don’t deserve it; no matter how good we are, we won’t ever be good enough to deserve it. But, because of Jesus, God sees us like He sees His own Son. He sees us as His children. And, we become more and more like Him.
Our children’s third and last gift is a gold gift, something they really really want (or we think they’d really want). Sometimes these gifts have been a little more costly—like a lego set or a sweet new scooter. And, sometimes, they really aren’t costly at all, but just something we know they really want, something that is like gold to them. One year, the boys’ gold gifts came from Craigslist and cost a grand total of $25 put together—secondhand pet box turtles. It’s the gift that we just want to give to them because we love them and want to bless them. And, we tell them so as we present each gift to each one them.
Of course, they have grandparents and aunts and uncles, all of whom dote on our children. And, they’ve taken to choosing small gifts for each other that they pay for with their own money (which is a teachable moment in and of itself). So, yes, they do actually get more than 3 gifts and get into Black Friday deals and all the seasonal hoopla.
But, our three gifts are one way that we’ve sought to set them up to better understand that Christmas is not simply about festive music on the radio, Rudolph, sparkly trees, cookies and milk, and boxes wrapped up with fancy bows. They sure do make Christmas fun; we don’t deny that. But, they aren’t what defines Christmas; Jesus does.
A letter to my friend on her adoption eve
Hi A.J.,
It’s Kelly Ayi. I have been thinking about you a lot lately. I remember the first time I met you. It was two years ago when I visited the welfare house for the first time and was waiting outside to see M.Y. get back from school. You were with him wearing your school uniform shirt and smiling big. I thought, “that little girl is so cute.” When I came back with Mark and Ashlyn and my friends in January, I got to know you a little bit better. I liked watching you do relay races in the park and dance. You still smiled big and your laugh was so cute. I said to my friends, “that little girl is delightful.” When I came back once more, one year ago, you and I spent a lot of time together. You taught me Chinese words and played my ukulele. You helped the younger kids. You painted a picture for me with both of our names on it. I framed the picture, and it hangs on the wall in my office. Your smile was bigger than I remembered. I came home and said, “that little girl is the best. My friend A.J. will be a wonderful daughter.”
Tomorrow is a big day. You are meeting your mom and dad. You will become their daughter. Some kids might feel all mixed up getting ready for that day. They might feel really happy because they have wanted a family for so long. They have watched other children leave before. Now it is finally their turn to get a family! But, they also might feel sad to leave China and their friends. They might feel scared because they do not know what living in this family and in America will be like. I wonder if you have some mixed-up feelings too. It would be okay if you did.
I have told your new parents a lot about you. I told them you are cute and delightful and will be a wonderful daughter. I have also told them that you might have big feelings, some happy and some not happy. They understand. Whatever you feel, they want to be with you. There is nothing you can feel or do that will make them not like you or not want to be your family.
I am far away now on the other side of the earth. But, I am waiting patiently until I get a message and see pictures of you with your family. They are really nice. They smile big just like you. And, they will take really good care of you.
With love,
Kelly Ayi
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