I wasn’t feeling great tonight. I laid on the couch while Mark managed it all. Scrolling through my inbox, trying to catch up on emails (a task harder than keeping up with laundry) led me to this. I was unprepared. I simply clicked on the link. Mercy Mercy.
An hour and 36 minutes later, here I am.
It’s a story of two children, two biological parents, two adoptive parents. None of whom were prepared for the reality of adoption.
Subtitles kept me captive to the screen. And, what I read in word and in expression will stick with me.
“We are just like stuff floating in the water.”
Indifferent. Reserved. Ignore.
“I thought you learned something, but you haven’t”
“I have nothing more to give.”
She leaves. She leaves. She leaves.
“Let God see my tears. Let the God of the truth accept my tears.”
I know their story isn’t every story. But, it’s their story. In my opinion, it should be required viewing for Hague training as it gives an inside view of the need for ethics before adoption and the need for good preparation, counsel, and support after adoption. And, it reminds us that the child needs to come first.I wasn’t prepared for it tonight. But, I’m so glad I ended up there.
Oh, Kelly. I’ve only just begun and unprepared is an understatement here. While it is their story, I see elements of it (Only watched the first half hour so far) in my own children who were taken into foster care at that age and placed in a very different looking family not understanding anything that was happening, feeling the loss of a very close relationship. I also had heard of this happening in other countries where the kids/parents are told the kids are going to be educated and will come back while the adoptive parents on the other end are clueless and have no such motivations. To see it makes it real. Heart-wrench.
This is our son’s story and while his BP’s are not sick they were unprepared for his sn’s. Attachement disorders are not fun and the help is not out there like it should be~ thanks for sharing.
Ahhh I couldn’t stop watching and now can’t stop crying. All these people videotaping–can’t they somehow get word to the bio parents? Is there no way for reunification in international adoption? Soo heartbreaking.
Wow. It was an eye-opener to see {and feel} the real people in a story no one wants to ever believe could be true, but is in some cases. Thanks for shouting it out. How ever did they film that? I may need to watch it again to take it all in. (I will admit I had to skip some as it was lengthy and heartbreaking.)
I haven’t gotten far but for these parents to be told their children won’t be bothered by them leaving and will forget them, how heart wrenchingly horrific. And now I have gotten far. Meanwhile I googled. This poor baby. I am struggling with so many emotions at this moment. I take issue with so much but the clear way these “new” parents put strings on their love hurts my heart. Maye I am understanding it all wrong but my oh my.
I am outraged af how it started AND how it ended. Angry at what we mhst not have seen……..because what we did see, after she got past the destructiveness, was NOT bad behavior. Ha ing a child that does immediately attach to you can bring on YOUR attachment problems and tbat is what i saw here. Very sad for Mosha. I am glad for the boy, but their treatment and reactions to her were very.different.
In the end, i wish the ap knew the bios were alive and still wanted her. I am disgusted.
Needless to say i am also upset ovef how the bios were treated.