She’s so intentional. It’s one of the things I love about her. On the occasion of her eldest’s 13th birthday, she asked for a super meaningful gift–words. She asked us to be intentional too and for us to share our words of wisdom, advice, encouragement, etc. with her little girl who is not so little anymore.
With her permission, here are the words I humbly gave to her.
It’s a big day. Maybe you don’t feel all that different than you did yesterday, but it’s still a big day. It’s official—you’re a teenager. No longer are you a “little girl.” Your parents have poured into you for years with a forward vision, intentionally guiding you and correcting you and loving you so that you can be the best you on those days and all your days. But, now, more than ever before, you are going to be learning what it means to be a strong and beautiful woman.
There is no shortage of messages proclaiming what being a strong and beautiful woman means, messages about equality and your rights and what defines attractive and what makes you valuable, messages about how to relate to men, who you should and should not be a fan of, what matters in life. We are all message makers, whether we want to be and try to be or not. And, our world is full of all different messages that tell us how we should understand ourselves and the world around us.
As a woman a little bit ahead of you, whose grey hair has earned me the right to share what I see as wisdom, I challenge you as you start this new season of life to carefully consider what messages you tune into. Whatever you are doing—alone or with people, in person or on your phone, looking in a mirror or looking into someone else’s eyes, carefully consider what messages you are hearing in your head that are telling you what to do and what to think. Ask yourself if what you are hearing is truly True. If you decide because of what you know already that it is not, then tell yourself so, and tell yourself a different message, a “You know that’s not truly True. Don’t go there. This is what’s truly True…” If you decide it is truly True, then nod your head and tell yourself so with a “That’s right. Keep on going.” If you consider what you are listening to and aren’t sure if it’s truly True or not, that’s okay because you’re still learning. Don’t be too shy to talk to your mom or dad and ask what they think. It’s their job to help you figure these things out, and they really like their job because they really love you.
It’s not easy being a teenager. It’s a lot of work to figure out who you are and who you want to be. And, it’s not easy to consider what messages you are listening to and discern what’s truly True. But, I don’t doubt for a second that you can do it and do it well because you not only have really good parents but you have the help of the One who is the expert message maker and who is the author of the truly True. It’s His job to be with you all the time, even when your mom and dad aren’t, and He really loves His job because He really loves you more than you could ever imagine.
I can’t wait to watch you figure out what being a strong and beautiful teenager means and grow to become a strong and beautiful woman who earns the right to speak a few things to me because I’m still learning too.
Humbly,
Genuinely,
Warmly,
Kelly
Head over HERE to read the words her mama gifted to her.